Age is just a number, really???

I remember an incident when I happened to see my Dad’s School leaving certificate which showed his date of birth somewhere in the month of April. This left me confused because until then I had always wished him in the month of September. I felt really bad for not knowing this because going by the fact in the certificate we could have celebrated our birthdays together. Later very fondly he had explained that in those days, having your month of birth to be before June is an advantage for getting an admission to school one year in ahead. That should have been my first introduction to the fact that age is not any random number and an admission to a school is not on the basis of whether the child is ready but on the basis of how old he or she is. But today, things are different of course because toddlers are left to day care centre’s and Montessori’s even as they continue to toddle; leave alone the question of age!!!

While at school, we progress from one class to another and by the age of 17 or 18, we finish our schooling; Thereafter graduation and then post graduation. By the age of 23, most of us are expected to finish with our education and then get into a job. If you are a girl, you might be lucky to get to work for a while before marriage , while guys are given a little more of liberty to get settled in their career, after all they are said to be the mandatory bread winners of any family. Totally like the famous dialogue from Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani – “22 Tak Padai, 25 pe Naukri, 26 pe Chokri, 60 pe Retirement, Aur Phir Maut ka Intezaar”!!!!

It’s not wrong to have age as a determining factor for various reasons. It’s understandable that certain things are at its best only when accomplished at a particular age. But somehow it’s not acceptable when they start to take a toll on one’s dreams. The World has progressed in a lot of dimensions and these changing dimensions have given way for the generation to dream big. In the path to achieving those dreams there can be a few unforeseen hurdles causing unpredictability. Most of the times, the unpredictability need not cause a wreck. This is simply because every hurdle do hold a definite solution however the constant reminder call of growing age does not let one pursue the path of finding them. And whether we like or not, with every passing moment, we are all growing old and no one can stop it from being that way….

Gone are the times when a girl’s dreams were confined to meeting her prince charming or having a fairy tale wedding. So are gone the times where a woman’s recognition was restricted to her culinary skills.  In fact it’s amazing to see that in the field of culinary as a profession, most commendable names are that of men. Today the world respects Calibre beyond every inch of any other difference. Therefore as we head towards a more competitive environment, we should be able to focus more on being the best in our respective fields. And in between, age cannot be the only factor determining priorities.

Let’s not chop off the wings of dreams in the name of age. Life has an expiry and age is just making it more obvious. We being a limited edition should try and make the stay more worthwhile and not let ourselves get lost in the noisy world around us.

Dear Friend….

 

All these years of my life, I have never been so sure about anything else other than the fact that I will never run out of words when it comes it you; simply because I really don’t have to be bothered about making sense. It can be fragments and you will still know what I exactly meant.

We were not born together but our bond is thicker than blood. We are no way similar, yet we have walked a long way together. We argue, we fight, we overreact, but who cares; because at the end of all of it, it’s still a “WE” and not “YOU” & “I”.

You are the best critic I have ever had, because you will never think twice before saying that it was bad. So do you stand by my side, when you know that I am right.

Life has had a few up’s and downs. There was nothing in common besides you being there all along. I am sure they will continue to be there all my life and so will you be.

For once I tried to make sense and exactly why I know I can’t make it beyond this. But in all that, if there is someone who can read all what’s untold, it’s just you. And by the way, today is not friendship day…

NEWTON’S MOST ACCEPTED THEORY

As a student, Sir Issac Newton always had a great influence in my life. It always swept me off my foot to think as to how this guy could be so amazingly brilliant. I mean if an apple had fallen on my head, I would either be like “Why me????” or would be like “Yet another bad day!!!!” It could have never occurred to me to even raise a question as to why the apple did not go upwards. Clearly I believe that if not for his phenomenal insight, Law of gravity would have been an axiom for the mankind. He has also made some other vital contributions to the World of Physics.  But of all of them, one theory that each one would have experienced at least once in their lifetime is the very famous, Newton’s Third Law of Motion – To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction!  The word “Third Law” always reminds me that there are two other laws before this masterpiece; however they never found a place in my limited storage capacity. And the same is not surprising because it’s only this law that has made its way into my life, surpassing the frontiers of my physics book and examination.

In our lives, the times we respond are less when compared to the times we react. And every time we react, there’s a force which is causing us to do so. It could be our emotions or it could be the circumstances or some other cumulative factor. There are times we experience joy beyond bounds, when everything falls in place in our lives. Similarly, we get offended by words or deeds of people who are around us. All these instigate reactions in us and their measure is directly proportional to the effect, the factors causing it have on our lives. Complicated right???

Exactly why I appreciate the great mind of Sir Newton; He has put one of the supreme truth of a day to day life in the simplest terms ever – To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction…  We come across numerous concepts and theories all across the phases of learning. But only a few of them travel with us all through our lives. I believe that there are three factors that can make this happen – the relevance of the subject matter in one’s life, the simplicity at which the same is being conveyed, and the other is a passionate teacher.  When a passionate teacher conveys an impactful concept in the most simplified manner, the result will definitely be a take away for a lifetime.

Saying so, Kudos to Sir Newton for being the best at what he is and for all that he will always be remembered for and to all my teachers for being instrumental in bringing in acceptability to knowledge in my mind and leading me to light.

I AM SORRY BUT I AM NOT GIVEN AN OPTION TO CHOOSE MY PARENTS!!!

A pinch of insanity, I believe, is an essential ingredient to make human life delicious. But just like salt, it can turn out to be a disaster if added beyond what is required. And the very idea of “RESERVATION / CASTE SYSTEM” is insane, is truly insane beyond acceptance. The statement might seem offensive but this is an outcome of the experiences that I have had in person and also that I have seen and read from the lives of people around me.

Well, I believe in the existence of a super power who has the remote control over the entire race of creations in the universe. But when he created the universe, the only way in which he was perhaps biased was in giving human beings an extra edge over his other creations. Later, his supreme creations went on a spree of dividing themselves into various sub categories and ranking them as high and low on God Knows what basis; thereby came into existence the prestigious ‘Caste System’.

Of course there existed quite a few reasons why such a system was the need of the hour back in the olden days.  And today I would really not mind about having to declare my caste in a matrimony profile. But when I find that as criteria for deciding my education and career, I find it insane. Where talent and merit should speak volumes about an individual, its being BC or OC that matters!!!

It’s also important to note that nobody is being benefitted in a great way from such a division. It’s just that for some it ends up in huge opportunity cost and for others it results in various forms of social discrimination and intolerance. When there can be a Win – Win situation by not having such a system, we choose to accept loss for reasons beyond normal understanding. And the Irony is that, we are supposedly the best of all creations because we have the power to think and decide what is right and wrong for ourselves.

Having said all this, I accept with a heavy heart that things are not going to change any time soon. But I also do not want to lose hope about seeing a change in a few decades maybe. But till then all I can say is “Yes, I belong to a so and so caste and that’s by birth. And I am sorry, Cos as of yet, neither am I given an option to choose my parents nor were they.” Somehow I am glad that we aren’t given one and I hope that we never will be given one. Instead, let’s look forward to a tomorrow where there would be lesser barriers dividing us, leaving a mark of equality in its true sense.

AWAITING A NEW AND GLORIOUS YEAR 2019

2018 is about to bid a goodbye to all of us. As time passes, it leaves behind treasures of sweet and sober memories, those memories that have the power to make us feel alive at times when living has just become a routine task. Today, most of us live our entire lives on a racing track. If there is someone ahead of us, we try to beat them in the race and if there is none, then we try to not let anyone do so. We were all taught that the verb denoting life is ‘living’ or ‘to live’. Somehow all of us got it wrong at the same time and made it synonymous to “running”; Run run and run till you die. And in the midst of this we forget that time is racing ahead of all of us and the span for which we are sent to earth is very very short. To make this stay on earth memorable, it is important to realise that, sometimes we need to take a break, relive our memories and decide for ourselves if we are on the very same track that can take us where we want to be in our lives.  We are left with the last few days of 2018. Lets’ all give that well deserved pause to our respective races, steal that little moment and gift ourselves the best of all gifts ever; joy for the rest of our lifetime…..